Cheating in dating

You joke, you flirt, you dress nicer when you meet him for lunch or drinks, you write long e-mails or tap out furtive text messages. He's not your husband, and your husband doesn't know about this guy—whether he's your ex-boyfriend from college, your Facebook friend or your coworker.

Is this the start of a beautiful (and innocent) friendship, or the beginning of the end of your marriage? Basically, emotional affairs occur when one partner is channeling physical or emotional energy, time and attention into someone other than the person they are in a committed relationship with to the point that their partner feels neglected.

Ask yourself: Am I doing things or talking about things with this person that I don't do or talk about with my spouse?

Am I going to complicated lengths to arrange time with this person?

Anyone looking for love knows there’s nothing worse than finding a cheater on a dating app.

But what if you know this unfaithful person or they’re in a relationship with your friend? Waterloo, Ont., dating coach Chantal Heide says cheating has become much easier with dating apps because they facilitate the leading factor that causes people to cheat — attraction.

The marriage-damaging factor of affairs, it turns out, is far less about sex than it is about the total package of deception.

Emotional cheating is about breaking trust with your spouse, not having sex with someone else," she adds.

Heide says you should let the person who is being cheated on know as soon as possible.

READ MORE: The number one dating dealbreaker for men and women“The unknowing partner is at risk, and you’d be doing them a favour by alerting them to the fact that they’re potentially in danger,” she says.

READ MORE: The couples who found love on an app destined for casual hook-ups“Apps make it very easy to reach out to numerous people in a short period of time, and the onus is on the person on the other end to do some vetting if honesty is an important criteria.”Ceilidhe Wynn, an Ottawa-based matchmaker with Friend of a Friend Matchmaking, says it’s also about variety.“It is really easy to go online and pick someone from a list of names and pictures,” she says.

“Everyone also seems more anonymous, there’s a disconnect that makes [cheaters] feel like they won’t get caught or that they’re cheating.”Heide says there are two types of cheaters on apps like Tinder and Bumble: those looking for “hopeful” people and those who are just looking for sex.“Hopeful” people want commitment and intimacy, but they also make easy targets for cheaters.

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